Letter to Rainbow's future step-mum
To the woman about to marry the father of my daughter
Where do I start?
I hope you know that I don't hate you.
And I'm not jealous of you. I feel sorry for you.
You either don’t know what he is like yet or unfortunately maybe you do know but feel powerless to stop it.
You're about to marry the person who told me what I couldn't be and showed me, through his lack of love, what I deserve to be and what I deserve in my life.
He isolated me from my friends and family, convinced me to move miles away from the love of my family. Told me that he would always be there for me and that I didn’t need anyone else.
But then in the same breath would manage to make me feel like I was a failure at everything and that I was lucky that he loved me and was willing to stay with me. That I would never leave him because I needed him to survive.
But I found the courage to leave him, yes I left him regardless of what he may have told you because I owed it to my daughter to show her that nobody has to put up with a relationship that makes them unhappy or makes them feels like they has no where else to go. That regardless of what people may say you are always enough!
People can say many things about a person, and not knowing me, it's hard not to believe everything as true, especially when there's only one side being spoken or heard.
I know that there will be times when the parts of him that made me leave may show through, and you may think that maybe, just maybe, some of what I said was true.
But, I hope he's different with you because he loves you. I hope he tries so hard to make you happy, because you deserve to be happy.
I hope while my daughter is with you both that you protect her, stand up for her, and stand up for yourself.
I hope you and my daughter have an amazing relationship together. She adores you.
I hope you will continue to read to her, play with her, and bond with her.
And finally, I want to thank you. I want to thank you for welcoming my daughter into your heart and I want to thank you for holding her hand and accepting her into your life part-time.
I wish you happiness, love, respect, knowledge, and everything that is kind.